Lee Wei Ling's choice for Singlehood

If the women in Singapore were looking for an champion for singlehood, this wasn’t it.

Writing another eye opening contribution that provides a peek into the life and times of a super talented family in Singapore, she revealed that as late as 10 years ago “there was a slim chance I might have got married.” Meaning, at age 44, Lee Wei Ling was still trying to stave off a lonely conclusion to a physical existence. Her rationalization that “better one person feeling lonely than two people miserable because they cannot adapt to each other” is as good a self denial as any. Probably never heard of couples who kiss and make up, in bed, under satin sheets. Dad didn’t exactly help by saying that “Your mother and I could be selfish and feel happy that you remain single and can look after us in our old age.” Especially when dad had earlier told the world she couldn’t cook to save her own life. Her repartee to that was, as the eldest son in a typical Peranakan family, father “cannot even crack a soft-boiled egg.”

All that material may make a great soap opera, but definitely not healthy ingredients for nationhood building. At least not for a nation of happy, well-adjusted, family orientated citizens.

You puzzle at her logic when she told of a first date at 21, when she dropped her doctor suitor (”like a hot potato”) because he brought her to a dinner party of rich socialites. Is she blind to the crowd that her father and brother rub shoulders with? The types that probably makes Obama a pariah because their take home pay is several times over that of the President of the USA?

Thankfully she was honest about her mistake telling a young single woman to spend 8 years pursuing a neurology course overseas. Poor dear returned to Singapore at her late 30s, and worries she may have missed her chance to get married. Perhaps her brain could not multi-task swotting and canoodling while on campus.

Once a senior management consultant, married and in her late 20s, confided that if she was still single, she wouldn’t have the confidence to rejoin the dating game. She was a pleasant and attractive lady, maybe not in physical attributes, spoke and dressed well, and it was tempting to tell her that should her ungrateful spouse dump her, she needn’t look far for another life partner. It boils down to a matter of choice. And freewill. Elements that separates civilised humans from the lower animals. And damn all those that try to take it from us.

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