Tuesday, May 5, 2009

AWARE: A triumph for women...

May 5, 2009
AWARE: REVELATIONS
A triumph for women...
The new exco members from the old guard - (back row from left) Tan Joo Hymn, Hafizah Osman, Chew I-Jin, Constance Singam, Nancy Griffiths, Nicole Tan, Martha Lee and Margaret Thomas, and (front row from left) Yap Ching Wi, Lim Seow Yuin, Joanna D'Cruz and president Dana Lam. -- ST FILE PHOTO

I USED to think that Singapore women were apathetic. Saturday's extraordinary general meeting of the Association of Women for Action and Research (Aware) showed me otherwise. Women wore T-shirts and badges declaring their support, and waved cards in the air that said 'For all women, trust, respect, choice'. It was the best $40 I spent on membership - and a place at the meeting - never mind the current economic situation and the upcoming Great Singapore Sale.

The spirit exuding from the women was worth it all. I learnt that non-governmental organisations (NGOs) are run differently from companies. NGOs run on goodwill and volunteers are valued assets who should never be let go. Consequently, such a society's leadership is powered from bottom-up, instead of top-down.

Also, NGOs talk about profit differently. In a company, profit is total income minus total cost. In an NGO, it is cost minimisation at all times because money can always be used to 'profit' someone in need.

Also gratifying was the debunking of the cliche that Singaporeans judge each other by paper qualifications. A lesser academically qualified member of Aware with a proven record for passionate advocacy is valued more that a better-qualified one without it. So, even highly paper-qualified fresh faces without prior experience need to be humble to learn from more experienced but possibly less paper-qualified ones.

Ho Anqi (Ms)

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Remark by pastor cause for concern, notwithstanding apology

Remark by pastor cause for concern, notwithstanding apology

I REFER to last Saturday's article, 'Pastor regrets 'actions on pulpit' '. Now that the Aware EGM is over and a new executive committee is elected, it is time to move on and start to see how this civil group can work towards what it stands for, with a clear mandate by members, new or otherwise.

However, the remark by senior pastor Derek Hong of the Church of Our Saviour is a cause for concern. He said: 'I regret that this matter has caused concern and unhappiness. My actions on the pulpit have aroused some tension in this saga. I now stand corrected.'

I cannot help but to feel that the pastor does not feel remorseful about what he mentioned in an earlier article, when he said: 'It's not a crusade against the people but there's a line that God has drawn for us, and we don't want our nation crossing that line.'

Pastor Hong spoke about his 'regret' only after the stance by National Council of Churches of Singapore president, Archbishop John Chew, with affirmation from Deputy Prime Minister Wong Kan Seng, who reiterated that there is a need for tolerance and restraint by all religious groups.

Pastor Hong should understand that, as a pastor with authority, what he said would influence not only his congregation but also other people, and that religion should not have a place in this saga. The remarks were very polarising. He has to be sensitive to the fact that religious harmony is not a given, it exists in Singapore because of the mutual tolerance of religious communities and the strong advocacy of the Government, and therefore cannot be taken for granted.

If Pastor Hong is truly regretful, a simple phrase of 'I am sorry I made those remarks' would have been much more humble than 'I stand corrected', as remarks that cause religious disharmony can have far-reaching and dire consequences.

It would do great disservice to Christianity if laymen start to perceive negatively that Christianity is an imposing, opinionated and uncompassionate religion, when it teaches, love, kindness and mercy.

Lee Swee Mei (Miss)

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Educating children about homosexuality is different from promoting it

Educating children about homosexuality is different from promoting it

WHEN I was at the extraordinary general meeting of the Association of Women for Action and Research on Saturday, I was astounded by the sheer passion of the women and men there. However, the arguments against the Comprehensive Sexuality Education (CSE) programme revealed a critical misconception.

Educating people about sexuality, including homosexuality, is not the same as promoting homosexuality. The first educates people about homosexuality and safe sex, providing beneficial protective knowledge. The second tries to encourage homosexuality as a lifestyle, regardless of one's innate sexual preference: a harmful enterprise. The two are categorically different and must not be confused.

CSE is like teaching a child how to use a knife safely. Regardless of what he is taught, the child will encounter knives at some time. A wrongly educated child is more likely to hurt himself with the knife than one properly instructed. In terms of sex life, that one cut can mean death or a lifetime on medication.

The threat of the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, especially HIV, cannot be underestimated, and CSE is one of the most effective tools to protect children, regardless of their sexuality. It equips them with the knowledge to make informed decisions about sex, to better understand why others may have different sexual preferences and why the sexual preferences of others cannot be forced on them. Parental supervision can reinforce this education.

Without CSE, children will be vulnerable to misinformation from sources like uninformed peers, future sexual partners or Internet sources. For the protection of future generations, CSE must continue with the full support of parents.

Nickole Li (Ms)

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Without sexuality education, how will teens get accurate info on sex diseases?

Without sexuality education, how will teens get accurate info on sex diseases?

I REFER to last Wednesday's article, 'Get facts right on sex education: Iswaran'.

It is a laudable move by the Ministry of Education, as well as external agencies like Aware, to run programmes on sexuality education. Sexuality education is important for teens. Parents usually do not have time to broach such topics with their children.

The onus therefore falls on schools. I am glad that schools now teach such topics during civic and moral education periods and engage external agencies to conduct talks and programmes to enlighten teens. Without such programmes, how will teens gather accurate information about sexually transmitted infections (STIs)?

Teens need to know the facts about STIs. Some, like Aids/HIV and herpes, are incurable. Some are curable but chances of recurrence are high. After one moment of folly, it can be a lifetime of agony. Hence teens need to be enlightened and warned of such diseases. They must learn to protect themselves.

They must also learn to say no, and acquire skills such as decision-making and resisting negative peer pressure. Teen pregnancy and abortion are real problems that need to be addressed and not swept under the carpet.

More can be done to educate the young. Schools must treat sex education seriously and all students should take a few modules conducted by schools or external agencies. As a teen myself, I find talks on body image, self-esteem and eating disorders very relevant. I hope such workshops are run in every school.

Sexual education is an important part of the school programme and a must in the holistic development of students.

Chee Li Min (Miss)

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Learn to live together within our diversity

Learn to live together within our diversity

DEPUTY Prime Minister Teo Chee Hean has urged us to learn from the Aware episode ('Learn from this episode: DPM', yesterday). I support his call and we must all endeavour to learn the right lessons in serving the community.

Yes, it is important to recognise that 'there will always be differences'. We are aware that we live in a multireligious, multiracial and multicultural Singapore. In such a context, we have to reckon with the factor of diversity. Differences will always exist and there will be multiplicity of views. The attitude of tolerance and mutual respect have to develop. This is line with Mr Teo's call to 'accept one another's differences and work together'.

While recognising diversity and accepting differences, we must move to common engagement and work for the good of society. There is no room for any one religion, one race or one culture to dominate and displace the other. We have to survive and learn to live together within our diversity.

Yap Kim Hao (Rev)

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Aware: Healing rift must start with re-examination

Healing rift must start with re-examination

I REFER to the recent controversy over homosexuality arising out of the quarrel between veteran members of Aware and new members who briefly wrested leadership until Saturday's vote of no confidence saw them resign.

The new members, led by briefly tenured president Josie Lau, referred to their Christian belief in justifying their takeover of Aware, whose agenda, they felt, had strayed towards advocating gender behaviour issues, rather than women's concerns.

As a Christian, I feel the healing must begin with a better understanding of how Ms Lau and her fellow members of the Anglican Church of Our Saviour got themselves in a pickle.

When it comes to someone's sexuality, Christians underestimate how difficult it is to convey the message of loving the sinner but hating the sin. It is hard in the case of homosexuals because a homosexual considers his sexual orientation or lifestyle part of his identity.

Many Christians believe that some homosexuals are the product of dysfunctional and unhealthy family relationships. Christians who believe this must also take a moment to ponder just what it must be like for homosexuals with such family backgrounds to deal with their homosexuality.

Ours is still a conservative society. Many homosexuals face condemnation and rejection from the very people who are supposed to love and support them. However strongly Christians may believe in the wrongness of homosexuality, we cannot turn a blind eye to the struggles and rejection many homosexuals often face from within their own families.

This is why I was surprised when the then-new executive committee quoted the example of Aware celebrating Mother's Day by bringing together mothers and their lesbian daughters, as an example of Aware's promotion of lesbianism. Do we really have to see this as the only inescapable conclusion? If we want to promote family values, there is something to be said for the notion that parents should love their children no matter what, that lesbians should not be shunned or shamed by their own family or society.

I imagine Aware showcased those families precisely to make that point. Is there really a need to see this as against family values? Is the idea of helping fractured families focus on continuing to love a homosexual child so wrong in itself? When Christians suggested so forcefully that this was part of the proof that Aware promoted lesbianism, that was when they lost me.

As for sexuality education in schools, many parents are concerned about what teenagers are taught regarding sexuality and homosexuality. We do not have to be Christians to share these concerns. But before we accuse anyone of having a single agenda of promoting homosexuality, consider the possibility that all the old guard wanted was not to make teenagers with homosexual leanings or thoughts feel so ashamed that they cannot talk about their feelings with counsellors or their parents.

The old guard may or may not have got the balance right but I would not be so quick to say there can be only one explanation for all this and it is that Aware has a single agenda of promoting homosexuality.

If the old guard truly wanted to promote homosexuality, why did Mrs Constance Singam nominate Mrs Claire Nazar, a Christian, for president? I believe the new team started to lose support - even among those who share their faith - because they came across as accusatory without taking the time to talk to and try to understand the motives and intentions of the old guard. They abandoned the option of pursuing constructive ways of engagement over differences, preferring to believe the worst of people and tried to exploit the element of surprise rather than effective dialogue. Many of us appreciated their good intentions, but did not agree with their tactics.

I urge Ms Lau and her team not to be disheartened in doing what they believe in. But if I am right that they were misunderstood, then they should acknowledge their mistakes and explain why they acted the way they did. The last thing we want is for the legacy of this saga to deepen misunderstandings between Christians and non-Christians, or wrongly perpetuate this idea that Christians are intolerant and have no interest in helping those who do not share their beliefs.

Teo Boon Theng (Mrs)

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Chinese antics have India fuming

May 5, 2009

Chinese antics have India fuming
By Sudha Ramachandran

BANGALORE - China's blocking of India's application for a loan from the Asian Development Bank (ADB) has raised hackles in Delhi, marking the first time Beijing has dragged a bilateral territorial dispute with India into a multilateral financial institution.

China asked for a postponement of an ADB board meeting on March 26-27, which was set to discuss the 2009-12 strategy for India. On the table was an Indian request for a US$2.9 billion loan approval. What appears to have got China's goat was the inclusion of a $60 million flood management, water supply and sanitation project in Arunachal Pradesh. Although China gave no explanation for its move at the ADB meeting, ADB sources in Delhi say that India's inclusion of a project in "disputed territory" prompted the Chinese decision.

China maintains that Arunachal Pradesh, which lies in India's northeast, is "southern Tibet". It lays claim to around 90,000 square kilometers of territory in India's northeast, roughly approximating the Indian state of Arunachal Pradesh. During the 1962 border war, China advanced into and briefly occupied territory here before announcing a unilateral ceasefire and pulling back to the McMahon Line that India recognizes as its border with China. In 1987, there were serious skirmishes at Sumdorong Chu in Arunachal Pradesh.

Despite the general improvement in Sino-Indian ties, China has not given up its claims on Arunachal Pradesh, even becoming more assertive in making these claims in recent years. Incursions into Arunachal and Sikkim have been frequent. The entire 4,057-km-long Sino-Indian border is disputed.

China's move at the ADB meeting isn't surprising. It has always objected to any development whereby India asserts itself vis-a-vis Arunachal Pradesh. Only a few days earlier, China raised objections to India's President Pratibha Patil visiting Arunachal Pradesh and objected to Prime Minister Manmohan Singh's visit there last year.

In 2007, a civil servant from Arunachal Pradesh was denied a Chinese visa on the grounds that he was from Chinese territory and hence didn't need one. During ongoing negotiations on the border dispute too, China is said to be rigid on its claims in Arunachal Pradesh.

Thus, an objection to an Indian loan involving Arunachal Pradesh was to be expected at the ADB.

An annoyed India has conveyed its displeasure with the ADB for allowing China to bring bilateral baggage to bear on its lending policies. It has made it clear that it will not remove the Arunachal project from the plan. This is the first time that an ADB loan to India - the largest recipient of ADB funding last year - has been blocked.

Days after the setback at the ADB, India struck back. It turned down China's informal request to be included in some form, ie as observer or associate member, into the 33-member Indian Ocean Naval Symposium (IONS) initiative started by India last year.

Reports in the Indian media have described Delhi's decision to exclude China from the IONS initiative as a tit-for-tat response. Officials of India's Ministry of External Affairs (MEA), however, deny that the decision on IONS is related to China's action in the ADB.

"China cannot be included in this initiative as IONS is restricted to Indian Ocean littorals, which China is not," an MEA official told Asia Times Online.

India's rejection of Beijing's request to be part of IONS has to do with its long-standing anxieties over China's growing presence in the Indian Ocean. With half the world's containerized freight, a third of the bulk cargo and two-thirds of oil shipments traversing this waterway, the Indian Ocean's importance for global trade is substantial. Its significance for India's economic development and security too is immense as most of India's trade depends on the sea for transport, while nearly 89% of India's oil imports arrive via the sea.

India is uneasy with China's presence in the Indian Ocean as it believes it poses a threat to its security and other interests.

"That India's decision on IONS followed close on the heels of the ADB developments is purely coincidental," the official said.

But a Chinese scholar on South Asia who spoke to Asia Times Online on condition of anonymity said that India is "reading too much on the Chinese move at the ADB". It was a "routine protest that had to be made. Had China not raised an objection, India would have seen it as softening on the part of Beijing on the issue."

"The meeting has only been postponed," he pointed out, adding that China would not sabotage the approval of India's loan when the meeting is rescheduled. "At a time when China is seeking a larger role for itself in multilateral financial institutions, it would not want to be seen as obstructionist or as using its position in these forums to settle bilateral scores," the scholar said.

But Indian officials are wary. With China's clout in global financial institutions growing, there is some concern in India that Beijing will use its influence to keep India in check.

After all, "China's use of its position in multilateral forums to clip India's wings is not new," the MEA official said.

Indeed, Beijing has resisted India's membership in the Association of Southeast Asian Nations Regional Forum and the Asia-Pacific Economic Cooperation and has never been keen on India becoming a permanent member of the United Nations Security Council. At the Nuclear Suppliers Group meet in Vienna last year, when a waiver of restrictions on nuclear trade with India was being considered, China sought to block a consensus from emerging in favor of India.

Indian officials say that China's move at the ADB is an issue of concern not only for India but other countries. China could use its position in multilateral financial institutions to hold back funds for countries that take a position that is more sympathetic and supportive of Tibetan leader the Dalai Lama for instance, or of Taiwan. Beijing could flex its muscles in these situations as well.

Sudha Ramachandran is an independent journalist/researcher based in Bangalore.


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